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Are You Responding to These Manipulative Behaviors?

Ever found yourself attracted to the wrong person?

Or getting interested – even turned on – by the wrong sort of behavior?

It’s more common than you think. And this pattern will continue if you don’t figure out why you keep responding to these bad behaviors…

Aubrey Marcus:

Like the neg, for example, is this backhanded compliment that creates a certain sense of insecurity in somebody that you can cure because you’ve caused the pain and then you provide the solution – which is a psychological manipulation that’s black magic for your game, right?

Matthew Hussey:

Yeah.

Aubrey:

That’s strategy, but it’s strategy played without the ethics and without being the person… do you want to be the person that manipulates someone into your bed?

Matthew:

I have several problems with the idea of the neg. Firstly, the neg starts from a place. It starts from the assumption that you’re lower value.

Aubrey:

Yeah.

Matthew:

I need to knock you down so that we’re on the same level. You don’t need to neg someone who’s of the same value as you.

Aubrey:

Yeah.

Matthew:

You already have the neg in a situation where you feel like you’re punching up.

Aubrey:

Which is establishing your lower worth.

Matthew:

You’re already tipping your hand for smart women.

Aubrey:

Yeah.

Matthew:

For smart women, you’re already tipping your hand. A smart, emotionally intelligent person knows immediately, “Oh man, this is an insecure man.”

Aubrey:

Yeah.

Matthew:

“Huh. I don’t want to give any time to this person.” So that’s my first problem, is that it already starts with this assumption that means your confidence isn’t in the right place to begin with. I also think we always have to pay attention – stop paying attention blindly to what works and start paying attention to who it works on.

Aubrey:

Hmm.

Matthew:

I don’t want the woman that a neg works on.

Aubrey:

Yeah. Truth.

Matthew:

I want a kind person who values kindness. The kindness is up there for me. You want to talk about what’s my biggest thing that I want in a relationship? What’s the number one priority for me? It’s finding a kind individual. A kind person does not respond to or respect that behavior. Because it’s not kind. It’s mean.

Aubrey:

Yeah.

Matthew:

It’s just mean. I love playing around with people. I love teasing people. I love banter. But you won’t find me saying a mean comment to someone.

Aubrey:

Sure.

Matthew:

You just won’t. I put money on that. You could spend a whole year with me. You will not find me saying mean shit. It’s not who I am and I don’t want someone in my life who’s driven by that. And so I think the moment you neg someone and it works, you’re in trouble. Because now you –

Aubrey:

Yeah. Either they don’t respect the kindness or they don’t have the awareness. And if they don’t have the awareness of their own and they’re not able to track what’s actually going on, then they might not even have the level of consciousness that you want, to create the relationship that’s going to be virtuous for you anyway.

Matthew:

Precisely. I want the person that recognizes the neg as a mean move and says, “I want no part of this.”

Aubrey:

Yeah.

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